Yes, if…

We’re all familiar with the sexual assault prevention slogan, NO MEANS NO.

The message hasn’t changed, but the slogan is evolving as a new definition of consent emerges, YES MEANS YES.

On Friday, July 29, 2022 the Supreme Court of Canada ruled that anyone not wearing a condom against their partner’s wishes can be charged with sexual assault.

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Not only does YES MEAN YES, but it is within your right to set conditions on that Yes.

To say, “Yes, if…”

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Note: I won’t be posting for a while. After eight years, I’m stepping back to rethink my blog. If this turns out to be my last post, I’d like to thank everyone who’s taken the time to like or comment. I’m forever grateful to Hugh and Brian for their advice and companionship on this journey.

Thank you!

Digital Books

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As a reader, I’m a fan.

Digital books free up space in your house and in your luggage. Plus, if you’re stuck in an airport, doctor’s office, or bath—reading on demand.

As an sometime author, I’m in trouble.

The best thing about digital books? Nothing is permanent. You can change the title, the cover, the whole damn book whenever you want.

The worst thing about digital books? Nothing is permanent. You can change…everything.

So, I did.

After tedious discussions with Grammarly, I tinkered with my vampire trilogy. The books are now as good as they’re ever going to be.

Which leaves my first book, the one I learnt on, the one I’ve already republished with a new cover, new title, and hopefully a better written story. I decided that Grammarly and I should turn a gimlet eye on Daniel Mine.

Big mistake.

Grammarly I can deal with; I’m used to her nitpicking. It’s time that’s the problem.

Things have changed since I first published the book in 2014. No one has a Garmin GPS hanging off their windshield anymore.

Time warp. Freaking annoying.

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Powerful in Red

Red isn’t a colour for the faint of heart. It’s a bold banner, a statement of pride and personality.

Korben White has plenty of both.

Nina Green

Sixteen now, and graduating from Archbishop Sancroft High School in Harleston, Norfolk, Korben has known he wanted to wear a gown to prom since he was twelve.

And this year, he did.

On prom night, Korben stepped out of the car to be greeted with a round of cheers from his classmates and teachers.

To say Korben is fortunate in his family and friends is a massive understatement.

Korben has been lucky enough to be surrounded by people who encourage him to be himself, to have a mother who believes that “Every child should be given the opportunity to explore who they are, and to find their way with supportive and loving parents.”

If only everyone was so lucky the world would be a happier place.

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Neil Patrick Harris is doing okay. From Doogie Howser…

To Barney Stinson…

To Michael Lawson…

Michael who?

You don’t know him yet, but you will.

In Uncoupled, the new Netflix show streaming July 29, Harris plays Michael, a New York real estate agent attempting the dating scene again at fifty after being dumped by his partner of seventeen years.


Doogie, Barney, or Michael, Neil Patrick Harris is worth powering up your PVR!

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Michael tossed a suitcase on the bed, flipped it open. He scooped socks and underwear out of a drawer and into his luggage.

“Another conference?” Richard asked, walking into the bedroom, tugging at the tie he hated wearing.

“Nope.” Michael kept packing, jeans, shirts, a sweater.

“So, what’s with the suitcase?” Richard asked, pulling off his tie on his way to the closet.

“I’m leaving,” Michael muttered, zipping his suitcase closed.  

Richard stripped off his shirt. “Visiting your parents?”

“No.” Michael sat on the bed and watched Richard change—for the last time.

He watched his husband hang up his suit pants and pull on a pair of jeans, the faded ones with a shredding hem that he’d had forever. Who would have guessed that those jeans would last longer than their marriage?

It wasn’t their ongoing battles about money. It wasn’t the lies and the increasingly younger guys that Richard thought he didn’t know about. It was the silence that Michael couldn’t take. He didn’t know how it happened, or when it started, but they weren’t sharing a life anymore. They were sharing a house, and that wasn’t good enough.

“I’m leaving,” Michael repeated.

Richard’s head popped through the neck of the sweatshirt he was pulling on. “What?”

Michael let the waiting suitcase and his expression answer for him.

Shock turned Richard’s face into a mask that crumbled as understanding set in. Understanding and resignation. “I’m sorry.”

“Yeah, me too.”

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The Umbrella Academy

I spent way too much time on my couch this week, blitzing through seasons two and three of the The Umbrella Academy.

A mix of science fiction and superhero genres, the Academy is a roller-coaster ride of action, sibling rivalry, and conflicting timelines. In a collage of decades, the show revisits the styles, social attitudes, and music of eras gone but not forgotten…

In addition to the loyal fan following, fierce reviews, and Emmy nominations, the Academy has earned a brass plaque, pat on the back, and shout out for the way it handled a personal life situation that impacted the show.

When Ellen Page

Transitioned to Elliot

The creative minds behind the Umbrella Academy got out their laptops and Voilá! Elliot’s character, Vanya Hargreeves, becomes Viktor Hargreeves. A few lines of sensitive writing, and the show moves on.

No big deal.

Because it’s not.

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Pride: 2022

This weekend is all about Pride, and after a Covid-19 imposed hiatus of two years, Toronto’s ready to celebrate.

Last weekend, Disney’s Lightyear opened worldwide…

Almost worldwide.

The animated movie was banned in Bahrain, Egypt, Indonesia, Iraq, Jordan, Kuwait, Lebanon, Malaysia, Oman, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, Syria and UAE.


Because of a same-sex kiss that lasts about as long as a blink.

Oh, the horror. That growing minds should be exposed to the idea that affection and love can exist between two people.

So, yes, let the Pride flags fly this weekend. Let the sun shine, the music blare, and people of every persuasion dance and hug and kiss in the streets.

Let Toronto shout out loud and proud for all people who can’t.

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They’re Back!

Ladies, Gentlemen, and all those who are both, neither, or undecided. Everyone, the show you’ve been waiting for. Back on the small screen for the first time in seventeen years.

The Boys from Babylon.

Okay, fine, it’s not exactly them. Neither Stuart Alan Jones or Brian Kinney will be strolling into your living room.

Queer As Folk has a new cast this time around, new characters, and a new location.

Goodbye, Manchester and Pittsburgh. Hello, New Orleans.

Will the new version carry the torch or tarnish the legend?

Let’s find out. 

Showcase June 26, 9 p.m. (In Canada)

Queer As Folk

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Uninvited Guests

I wasn’t expecting guests.

But I found this little guy peeking out from under the patio furniture…

Checking out the accommodations for his brothers and sisters.

It’s not that all five of them weren’t welcome, but their mom wasn’t any too pleased that they’d come visiting.

Our young guests rambled about a bit…

And decided not to stay.

I’m thinking they were insulted that we removed the cushions from the furniture.

We’re terrible hosts.

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Hearts and Trees

Trees are like kids or dogs, I like them a lot better at someone else’s house.

Or in the park.

The winding paths of our local park are gorgeous in the autumn, crisp, colourful leaves underfoot. Actually, there isn’t a season when trees don’t look great.

I’m not anti-trees all together, just the ones in my back and front yards. Massive old pine trees that kill the grass beneath them and blanket the yard with pine needles that someone, me, has to rake.

Don’t tell anyone, but I tried to get rid of them.

Nope. The city frowns on tree murder.

I’m stuck with them.

Turns out that might be a good thing. There are a ton of studies claiming that trees are heart friendly. The more trees in your neighbourhood, the less likely you are to have a heart attack. Heart disease, strokes, anxiety, and depression all decrease in areas with trees and green spaces.

Guess I’ll get out the rake 🙂

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